Body Language and Flirting

Quick Jump: General Signs of Flirting | Male Flirting | Female Flirting

Only 7% of communication is verbal communication. (see note)

body language38% of it depends on our intonation, or the sound of our voice. For instance: A shaky, uneven voice may suggest that a person is shy, intimidated, or dishonest. A clear, loud voice may indicate that a person is confident.

The largest chunk of communication is body language, which takes up the remaining 55%. These statistics show that a person who knows how to control their body and voice is considered more appealing than someone who knows only a mouthful of pick-up lines and crowd pleasers.

The impression we make on others starts not when we first open our mouth, but with our posture, breathing, appearance, and movement. Also see MicroExpressions .

Art and Science of Flirting and Body Language

The art of flirting is expressed with actions. And non-verbal communication is more important than words. Although flirting signals are rarely noticed consciously — the message is always sent across.

Flirting Quickies
(for our lazy readers)

Male Flirting Signals:
– hands on belt or belt buckle
– preening / grooming
– stretching (and other actions that make him seem bigger)

Female Flirting Signals:
– actions that make her appear smaller
– playing with hair
– exposure of neck or inner wrists

General Flirting Signals:

– eye contact
– mirroring
– triangulation
– “accidental” touching

This artful dance makes possible for strangers to become comfortable with each other, even at their first exchange of words. People become at ease with others when they find the other person pleasant. People appear pleasant as a result of showing interest in others…

Eye Contact and Triangulation

Our actions (body language) reflects our interest in various ways. In general, these actions manifest by instinct when we are facing people that we admire. For example, in intimate conversation, people usually look at each other’s eyes.

Sometimes we shift our vision from one eye to the other, and to the bridge of the nose. This is what is called the triangular formation of vision. As a person becomes more interested in another, this triangular formation extends downward. Some say that it’s rude to look at a stranger’s body, but when you really think about it, people really can’t help it when they feel attracted.

When people are talking to mere acquaintances, they simply look at their eyes, but when people are interested in someone, they tend to notice a lot more than just the eyes and the nose. Also… looking at the someone’s mouth can suggest interest in kissing.